Our very design is made of many intricate parts. We have the ability to feel as well as the responsibility to handle those feelings in a balanced way. When children are small, they haven’t quite mastered this responsibility. Often times their feelings lead them into sticky situations. As parents, we have the unique calling to guide them and teach them how to respond appropriately in any given situation. Once we become adults, it is then our responsibility. That doesn’t always work out well and even we lose it sometimes! But what about our responsibility to be true to who we are? Who governs our identity? Our parents, our teachers, our pastors all teach us in one way or another to be ourselves. In reality, that doesn’t always work out so well either.
From day to day, we are faced with an undeniable truth; we have an identity. We may not know what it is. We may not even know how to find it. But the result will always be the same; whatever influences you allow to steer your heart that is what your identity will become. We absorb so much each and every day. We listen to the radio stations. We spend time on social media. We go to church. We are parents. We are coworkers. We are stay at home mothers. We are all vastly different, and so are our identities.
My burning heart’s desire for you this very day is for you to know one thing, your identity is unique to you. God formed and fashioned you to be. And just as you witness a special person in your life opening a gift that you so lovingly have given to them, God also awaits that moment for you to unwrap the gift of your destiny. Wrapped ever so preciously in the gift of His love for you, is your identity.
The time has come for you to lay down the ideals of who others believe you are called to be. No more measuring yourself up to the unrealistic expectations of the world around you. Even the well-doing of people in our lives can miss the depths of who God has designed you to be. Maybe you work by day and parent by night. Maybe you stay at home with your children. Maybe you are a full time student. Maybe you long to have children but your season has not yet come. Maybe you have children but are overwhelmed and burned out. Maybe you are just leaving your parents’ home and are moving out on your own. Whatever your journey, know this; your Father in heaven loves you. He is unafraid of your worries or anxieties. He is not threatened by your fear of not being enough. He desires only your whole heart. He desires only to love you and to reveal the plans He has for you. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.” (Jeremiah 29:11-13)
So, what are you going to do? Will you allow Him to truly love you? Will you allow Him to reveal the plans He has for you. The world around us could tell us many things. It can decide for us what our identity and destiny is meant to be. It can give us standards to live by. It can process our lives within a box that makes sense. Or, just maybe, you could step out of that boat. You could be like Peter who stepped out of the boat, rocking in the midst of a wild storm, and step onto the water, face to face with the One who knows you better than you know yourself? I believe you know the answer. The only answer to truly being you. I made the decision long ago. The decision to be me and no one else. My identity is unique to me. My journey is my own. Every single time someone asks why I do things differently, or why am not like someone else, I simple answer, “I am His, and He is mine.”